DIASPORA* is a social network that basically wants to give users their privacy and freedom and all that other jazz, and you can even set up your own social network with it on your own server and do things the way you want. It’s also open source, meaning anybody can make modifications to it if they want. I work for them. :) Check it out here.
Edit: probably the easiest one to get started with would be diasp.org, but there’s tons of other servers too, all run by different people. The different servers talk to one another to create one seamless network that can’t be controlled by any one group of people.
One of the great things about Tumblr is that people use it for just about every conceivable kind of expression. People being people, though, that means that Tumblr sometimes gets used for things that are just wrong. We are deeply committed to supporting and defending our users’ freedom of speech,…
Although I like the second option somewhat, what Tumblr is advocating is censorship. They’re completely turning down certain ideals of self-harm, such as branding, scarification, and certain practices that actually lead well into the DIY body-modification community. This potentially could fuck over:
People that pierce their own body parts without “professional” training.
Those that involve themselves in scarification. My best friend was involved in it for some time, and he swears to this day that it was one of the most invigorating set of experiences in his life.
Other groups involved in the body modification community in general. It seems the idea of cutting yourself open and modifying your body, the one thing you truly own, could be frowned upon here as a “harmful ideology”.
Basically anyone that embraces the ideologies of pain. While Tumblr seems to be mainly looking out for anyone that could kill themselves, this is a really slippery slope.
People involved in ritual self-branding, or branding for sentimental reasons.
The problem is that things linked to these could potentially be censored. First, Facebook started censoring their users. Then, Twitter did it. Now, Tumblr’s thinking about it, and on the fence. In order to truly support free speech, you need to support all of it, or things are going to Hell quickly.
And really, if they’re doing a “cleansing” of ideologies they don’t like, who else are they going to target?
People with extremely controversial beliefs
Anything to do with Anonymous.
Call me crazy, but it’s already happening with Facebook and Twitter. It’s not that much of a leap to say that Tumblr could start doing this too, if they do in fact employ censorship tactics.
i automatically assume everyone dislikes me unless every individual states otherwise which means you have to tell me yourself that you actually enjoy my presence in order for me to believe that you don’t dislike me how difficult is it to understand that
This is a very personal post. If you don’t like delving into what makes a person tick (or not tick), feel free to skip this one.
For the longest time, I’ve lived with the reality of constant emotional pain. One of my biggest mistakes is that I valued relationships over all other things. Pursuing a romantic relationship has become an obsession of mine that has filled years of my life with anxiety, sadness, and emotional instability. My biggest flaw is that I can and will fall in love with just about anybody.
I’ve thought about this problem for the longest time, and I’ve decided there’s only one way to go about this problem.
I am consciously choosing to be single. The anxiety I feel from worrying about love and relationships feels like enough to push me over the edge and drive me crazy. Often, I feel unwanted, undesired, and unattractive, even though that may not be the case. I often feel that people just couldn’t love me in a romantic context, because why on earth should they?
It’s even worse when I’m in a relationship.
I am also choosing to abstain from having sex of any sort. I’ve never been one to sleep around to begin with, but that very anxiety carries over to intimacy for me, and it’s embarrassing and emotionally painful. I feel that I’m more or less impotent because of this.
It’s all a matter of perspective. Would you rather feel alone, or would you rather feel that you chose to be alone?
So, until further notice, I am consciously choosing to be celibate and alone, rather than falling into the situation of being lonely and unsatisfied. I feel that there’s a lot of power in saying “No.” It’s empowering to deny social situations in which a person propositions you, because it shows that while you can certainly embrace sexuality, you choose not to partake in it for whatever reason of your choosing. There is no obligation, and there never was.
This isn’t for any religious sort of reason. This is because I still have a lot of pain, and I can’t afford to get that close to another human being right now.